Leadership mistakes

I talked to a former teammate last night. The conversation consisted of leadership, and the mistakes that leaders often make. After our conversation I decided to make a list of  leadership mistakes in coaching. However, these mistakes are often made in every profession. Here are my top 6:

1. Making emotional decisions

• Responding to how you feel vs. what they need
  
• Bad shot, bad pass, bad defensive positioning: Keep negative reactions to a minimum because they are watching you 
  
• Reaction substitutions: it is okay to be mad at a player. Just don't make a emotional substitution that can cost you the game
  

2. Inconsistency

• Saying one thing then doing another, or saying different things can damage a program
  
• Develop a culture and standards, and live by them
  
• Live up to clearly defined standards or don't define them
  
• It's not bad to make mistakes just explain them
  

3. Lack of communication

• Uncomfortable conversations are better than none
  
• Let others know what you want
  
• It's okay not to not always have all the answers.  Don't be afraid to say "I don't know" while you figure them out.
  
• Must find a balance so everyone is on the page
  

4. Assuming  

• Don't assume your staff knows what you want or need
  
• Some things may be bit "elementary" and players should know certain things at a certain level. Don't assume your players know things you have not taught (think back to the bad coaches/managers you've had)
• Don't assume, perform
  

5. Overlooking the good

• More times than not the smart, tough and SIMPLE get overlooked.  When you expect you forget to appreciate.
  
• When things are going bad the focus is usually on the bad.  Take a second everyday and look at the positives in your life and program.

6. Excuses for talent

• If it's not okay for a manager it shouldn't be okay for the star
  
• Does your 'best player' get the same consequences as the last guy on the bench
  
• Talent shouldn't affect the the culture
  

"A leader is one who knows the way, goes the way, and shows the way." John Maxwell